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Annalisa Bahadur

I talk about attachment styles and give tools and strategies for relationships

Become Secure

Become Secure

$275$375

They seemed so ready for a relationship in the beginning, and then something changed.

If you’re anxiously attached, you probably noticed the very first time they pulled away.

They said nothing was wrong. They may have even told you that you were imagining it. But you felt the difference.

If you’re avoidant attached, you loved how independent and easygoing they seemed - until suddenly they wanted more time, more closeness and more reassurance than you felt able to give.

Now one of you is asking for more while the other is asking for space.

And somewhere underneath it all, you’re both afraid that if you don’t handle this perfectly, they’ll eventually leave just like everyone else did.

HOW WE’RE GOING TO WORK ON IT

  • We’re going to start by figuring out which attachment style actually sounds like you not just the label you’ve given yourself.

  • We’ll look at how your attachment style developed and how it may be influencing the relationships you choose today.

  • Then we’re going after your triggers.

  • Not just identifying them. We’re going to slow them down, understand what they’re telling you and learn what to do before they take over.

  • You’ll learn how to recognize when your attachment system has been activated so you don’t automatically chase, withdraw, shut down or spiral.

  • We’ll work on the fear of speaking up and teach you how to ask for what you need without trying to control the other person.

  • If you need space, you’ll learn how to take it without disappearing or making your partner wonder whether the relationship is over.

  • If you need more connection, you’ll learn how to ask for it without chasing, demanding or abandoning yourself to get it.

  • I’ll teach you how secure communication actually sounds when one person needs space and the other needs reassurance.

  • We’ll work on building independence and self-worth that exist outside of your relationship, so your entire sense of safety isn’t determined by what your partner does that day.

And I’ll teach you the 12 characteristics of each attachment style so you can start recognizing these patterns while dating - not six months later when you’re already deeply attached.

WHAT YOU'LL GET

  • You’ll understand what’s happening inside you before automatically reacting to it.

  • You’ll be able to ask for closeness or space without turning it into another push-pull cycle.

  • You’ll stop making every change in someone else’s behavior mean something about your worth.

  • You’ll become better at recognizing relationship patterns before you become deeply invested in them.

  • And you’ll have practical tools for creating relationships that feel healthier - not just relationships you’re desperately trying to keep.

At some point, you have to ask yourself...

How many different people are you going to have the same relationship with before you realize the pattern needs YOU to change it?

If you’re sick and tired of repeating the same difficult relationship with a different person, join me and let’s work on ending the cycle once and for all.