
If you’ve ever:
• Re-read a text 10 times
• Felt guilty but couldn’t explain why
• Wondered if you were overreacting
• Lost sleep over a message
You’re not overreacting.
You’re likely dealing with manipulation tactics.
Narc Decoder is a message shield for high-conflict communication.
Built after years of navigating high-conflict communication firsthand — because I needed a way to see clearly before responding.
Try your first decode free — no signup required.
Paste one message or simply describe what was said to you.
Your message stays hidden until you are ready.
Then tap “Gentle Translation” or “Analyze + Create Replies.”
The system will:
• Identify manipulation tactics
• Extract what’s actually being asked
• Show how it may impact co-parenting or conflict dynamics
• Recommend whether to respond
• Generate a calm, steady reply option
Use DBT-informed tools to calm your nervous system before responding.
You can also save or share the decode card to show a therapist, lawyer, or trusted friend what’s actually happening in the message.

This isn’t about escalating conflict.
It’s about clarity.