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Alyssa Zander

healing codependency & the mother wound in community

Codependency Alchemy: The Course

Codependency Alchemy: The Course

$149

You don’t have codependency “wrong”… you just have it backwards.

Most high-achieving women think, “I’m independent, I don’t struggle with codependency.”

But codependency isn’t about being clingy or needy.
It’s about the ways you quietly abandon yourself — and then wonder why you feel resentful, exhausted, or stuck in love.

Codependency happens anytime your worth or your good feelings about yourself depend on someone or something outside of you.


Does this sound like you?

  • Obsessively waiting for a text back, overanalyzing every word.

  • Feeling resentful your partner won’t get off the couch and help — but not saying anything.

  • Performing at work but secretly desperate for your boss’s validation.

  • Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, walking the dog, doing bedtime routines… because “no one else will.”

  • Never asking for help (because they won’t do it right anyway).

  • Silencing your needs to keep the peace, then drowning in resentment.

  • Doing everything to avoid being seen as a “bad mom, bad partner, or bad friend.”

Didn’t realize these are codependency patterns? You’re not alone.


Why it happens

  • You learned early on that safety came from reading the room and meeting others’ needs.

  • You override yourself because deep down, you don’t feel worthy unless you’re doing for others.

  • You’ve been taught that love means sacrifice, when in reality, it’s about authenticity.

If you find yourself constantly resentful or exhausted, this is likely directly tied to codependency and your fear around enforcing boundaries... and most of you are not setting boundaries correctly.


Imagine this instead…

  • Making meals together and sharing chores without resentment.

  • Saying “no” with confidence (and zero guilt).

  • Taking that long bath or weekend away, and actually enjoying it.

  • Setting and reaching goals without needing someone else’s approval.

  • Feeling safe in love because you finally feel safe in yourself.

This is what becomes possible when you heal codependency at the root.


What you'll get inside the course…

Five in-depth modules with teachings, shadow work, and somatic tools to help you:

  • From Prioritizing Others → Honoring Your Needs
    Learn how to stop abandoning yourself and finally set boundaries.

  • From Seeking Validation → Cultivating Self-Worth
    Stop chasing approval and discover what it feels like to feel enough from within.

  • From Fear of Abandonment → Embracing Self-Trust
    Build trust in yourself and your intuition instead of outsourcing it to others.

  • From Enabling → Empowering Yourself & Others
    Stop carrying the weight of everyone else and step into empowerment.

  • From Silence → Authentic Communication
    Say what you mean with clarity and compassion — no more eggshell walking.

You’ll also receive:

  • Shadow work reflections to uncover root patterns.

  • Inner child healing to reclaim all parts of you.

  • Somatic practices to regulate your nervous system.

  • Guided workbooks, exercises, and prompts for real-life integration.

This isn’t about more “head knowledge.” It’s about embodying safety, confidence, and self-worth.


My story (why this works)

My partner and I almost didn’t make it. For years, I thought if he would just change — if he would just listen more, help more, show up differently — then we’d finally be okay. But when we broke up, I had to face the truth: the common denominator in all of my relationships was… me.

That realization was painful, but it was also the turning point. I dove into shadow work, inner child healing, and somatic practices — not to fix him, but to take responsibility for myself. That’s what brought us back together, and what allows us to thrive today.

And it’s not just my personal story. Over the years, I’ve worked with hundreds of women who look “put together” on the outside, but are quietly exhausted, resentful, and anxious on the inside. I don’t just teach these tools — I live them, every single day. They’re the reason I can have a career I love, a partnership that feels safe, and a nervous system that isn’t running my life anymore.

Ready to stop abandoning yourself?

It all begins with one choice: taking responsibility for your life.

I'M READY TO HEAL

Total :US$149
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