WTF Are We Doing?
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WHAT THE FUCK ARE WE DOING?
A no-bullshit guide to seeing clearly, choosing well, loving deeply and knowing when enough is enough.
You’ve replayed the conversation.
You’ve asked your friends.
You’ve overanalysed the text.
You’ve ChatGPT'd it.
You’ve probably watched seventeen TikToks telling you to either leave immediately or raise your standards.
And somehow...
you still don't know what the fuck to do.
Maybe you love him but something doesn't feel right.
Maybe he's a genuinely good man and you still don't know if he's your man.
Maybe you've been hurt before and can't tell whether you're seeing a real red flag or reacting to an old wound.
Maybe you've fucked up too.
Maybe nothing is technically wrong — but you still aren't happy.
Or maybe you already know the answer and you're just not ready to admit it.
This is the point when women come and ask me for help...
THIS BOOK IS FOR THAT.
What The Fuck Are We Doing? isn't another relationship book telling you to leave a toxic man, know your worth and wait for your king.
It's a field guide for the messy bit in between.
The bit where real people have real feelings, real history, real flaws and real decisions to make.
Inside, we'll look at:
What you actually want.
Not what you think you should want.
Feelings vs facts.
Because your feelings matter — but they don't always tell the whole story.
Red flags, old wounds & wishful thinking.
So you can stop confusing fear with intuition and hope with evidence.
What makes a relationship genuinely safe.
Trust. Partnership. Communication. Accountability. Behaviour.
What happens when things get hard.
Because a bad day isn't automatically a bad relationship — and an apology isn't automatically repair.
How to know whether to stay, try, or go.
Without needing a villain, a dramatic betrayal or someone else's permission.
And what to do with everything you've learned afterwards.
Because the goal isn't to become a woman who never chooses badly.
It's to become a woman who can see clearly enough to choose honestly.
AND YES, I'VE FUCKED THIS UP TOO.
I've stayed when I should have spoken.
Spoken when I should have shut the fuck up.
Ignored things because I desperately wanted something else to be true.
Made decisions from hurt.
Put walls up.
Needed reassurance.
Refused to explain myself for the hundredth time.
And had more than one moment of:
“Donna. Come on.”
I've learned a lot about relationships professionally through mindset, behaviour and years of working with women.
But I've learned a hell of a lot through actually living them too.
So I'm not sitting here pretending I've cracked the code.
I'm giving you the questions, perspective and tools I wish more women had when they're too emotionally involved to see clearly.
YOU DON'T NEED ME TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO.
That's the point.
You don't need another woman on the internet deciding whether your relationship is toxic.
You don't need your best friend's opinion.
You don't need a TikTok comment section.
And you don't need to convince yourself that everything is fine because technically nothing is that bad.
You need to be able to look at yourself, him, the relationship and the life you're actually building...
and tell yourself the truth.
Because sometimes the answer is:
I want to try.
Sometimes it's:
We need to talk.
Sometimes it's:
I don't know yet. I need to watch what happens next.
And sometimes...
it's fucking over.
Whatever the answer is, you deserve to make it from clarity rather than panic.
WHAT YOU'LL GET
A practical, honest relationship field guide you can read from beginning to end — or dip into whenever you're in the middle of some relationship-related what-the-fuckery.
Real perspective.
Real questions.
Real-life mess.
No pretending relationships are perfect.
No pretending you are.
No telling you what you should choose.
Just a much clearer way to look.
What the fuck are we doing?
Let's figure it out.
£17.99
INTRODUCTORY LAUNCH PRICE
You can love someone and still leave.
You can be hurt and still take responsibility for your part.
You can stay and do things differently.
You can change your mind.
You can choose again.
That's the whole fucking point.
— Donna x