
Every behavior your child has – the meltdowns, the cooperation, the weird stuff in between – has three parts. What happened right before it. The behavior itself. What happened right after. Once you can see all three, you can change any one of them. And when you change them on purpose, behavior changes too.
This guide is the foundation. The setup work most parents skip (and the reason their strategies stop working by Tuesday). Built on 30+ years of applying Applied Behavior Analysis with real families. No jargon, no fluff, no scripts that sound like a corporate manual.
What's Inside:
What A, B, and C actually are, and why all three matter (most parents only see the B – the behavior)
The antecedents (the A) you're accidentally setting up that are lighting the fuse on your child's behavior
The Proactive Playbook: 8 antecedent strategies that prevent problems before they start
How your responses (the C) are shaping your child's behavior every single day, on purpose or not
Inadvertent reinforcement: the trap where you're rewarding the exact behavior you're trying to stop
The four functions of behavior – the why underneath what you're seeing
A printable ABC Observation Worksheet to find your child's patterns
Your Behavior Plan Blueprint – the three-part plan that actually works
Parent Cheat Sheet for the fridge