
Your child isn't ignoring you because they're defiant. They're ignoring you because ignoring works. If asking three times before you mean it gets the same result as asking once, your child has learned exactly what to do, and what not to do, with the first two.
This guide closes the gap between what you should do and what's actually happening at 6 pm on a Tuesday. The Follow-Through Framework with real scripts, the Proactive Playbook for the moments before things go sideways, and the truth about why empty promises do as much damage as empty threats. Built on 30+ years of applying Applied Behavior Analysis with real families, and a desire to make parenting a little less overwhelming. No jargon, no fluff, no scripts that sound like a corporate training manual.
What's Inside:
Why children ignore us, and why it's not defiance (it's learning)
The Gambling Problem: how inconsistent follow-through trains your child to test you every single time
The Follow-Through Framework: step-by-step, in-the-moment scripts that work
The question to ask yourself before you open your mouth (skip this and you're stuck)
The Proactive Playbook: 5 antecedent strategies that prevent power struggles before they start
Follow-through on rewards: the other side of the coin most parents miss
Why empty promises do as much damage as empty threats, and how to never make one again
Reflection prompts to apply this to your specific child, today
Parent Cheat Sheet to keep handy