The Ruby Method

90% of the questions I receive involve texting in some capacity… perhaps you’ve had some of these thoughts yourself…

And the thoughts sound something like this…

"He hasn't texted in two days. Do I reach out or is that chasing?"

"Things were going SO well and now he's distant and I don't know what I did."

"We hang out every week, he texts every day, but he won't call me his girlfriend."

"I want to bring up where this is going but I'm terrified he'll leave if I do."

"I just checked his Instagram story views again. I know. I KNOW."

"He asked me to come over at 10pm and I said yes and I'm getting ready right now and I hate myself a little."

"I told my friend to leave her situationship yesterday and I'm literally in one."

"I keep praying about it but then doing the exact opposite of what I know God is telling me to do."

I don't know about you, but I think it's about time we stop doing the same thing and calling it faith.

Because here's the truth. You know your worth. You do. But every time your phone buzzes, every time he goes quiet, every time you're lying in bed at midnight wondering what you did wrong, knowing your worth doesn't help you. You need to know what to DO. And nobody's taught you that part.

Let's fix that.

TELL ME, DOES ANY OF THIS RESONATE?

Your stomach drops when you see he's been online but hasn't responded to you. You check the timestamp. You check again twenty minutes later. You put your phone face down and then flip it back over. You already know this isn't healthy but you physically cannot stop.

You just accepted plans you know you should have said no to. He texted late, he planned nothing, he gave you the bare minimum and you're currently getting dressed anyway because saying no feels like losing him and losing him feels like the worst thing that could happen right now.

You're giving him girlfriend energy and getting "I'm not ready for a relationship" energy back. You're cooking for this man. You're supporting him through things. You're ALL in. And he still introduces you as his "friend." (Your chest just tightened reading that, didn't it. 👀)

You just told yourself "he's just busy" and you know you're lying. You've said it so many times it doesn't even sound like a lie anymore. But your gut knows. Your gut has known for weeks.

You overshared again. First few dates and he already knows about your dad, your ex, your attachment style, your therapist's name. You thought you were building intimacy. Now he's pulling away and you don't understand why.

You cancelled on your girls because he finally texted. Your real ones. The ones who actually show up. You dropped them the second he threw you a crumb of attention and you didn't even think twice about it.

You are currently making excuses for a man who would not make an excuse to see you. Read that again.

You've been scrolling his profiles looking for signs. His following list. Her page. That girl who liked his photo. You're doing detective work on a man who could just tell you where you stand if he wanted to. But he hasn't. And you keep investigating instead of accepting what the silence is already telling you.

You know God is telling you to walk away from this and you keep negotiating. One more month. One more conversation. Maybe if I just pray harder. Maybe if I'm just a little more patient. Meanwhile the situation God has been whispering for you to leave is the same one you're about to text back.

I promise you, it does NOT need to be this way!!!

MY PLAN: TAKE YOU FROM GUESSING WHAT THE MOVE IS TO ✨KNOWING IT COLD ✨

IF YOU READ THIS BOOK AND ACTUALLY APPLY IT YOU WILL:

Stop reaching for your phone to check if he's replied and start building a life that's so full your phone could die for six hours and you wouldn't even notice.

Stop being the one keeping the relationship alive. If you removed your effort and the whole thing went silent, it was never being held up by both of you. That's not a loss. That's information.

Stop accepting the 10pm text, the last-minute plans, the half-hearted effort, because you're afraid saying no means he'll stop asking. He either rises to your standard or he tells you everything you need to know by not rising.

Stop pouring your whole story out by date three and start letting him earn the deeper layers over time. Not as a game. Because your story is sacred and not everyone who asks deserves access.

Stop panicking when he goes quiet and start going to live your life. Space is not the enemy. It's the thing that lets him miss you. You can't miss what never leaves.

Stop giving a man the power to control your mood, your peace, and your entire day based on whether or not he texted back. That's not love. And you know it.

Have 12 plays for the exact situations you keep finding yourself in. Not ideas. Not "try being more confident." The actual move, why it works, and what to stop doing. For tonight. For tomorrow. For the next time your emotions are loud and you need someone to tell you what to do.

Know the 10 mistakes that keep pulling you back into the same cycles so you can catch them before they cost you what God has planned.

Know what it looks like when it's actually real. And know how to choose him back from wholeness, not just relief that somebody finally showed up.

LOGISTICS:

Instant access to The Ruby Method (106 pages, 10 chapters, 12 plays, 10 fouls, reflection questions, scripture bank, and a cheat sheet you can screenshot for when you're in the middle of it)

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Due to the nature of digital products, there are no refunds.

You were made to be chosen. Now go live like you believe it.

**Disclaimer: of course I wish I could guarantee you a love story so good it makes your married friends jealous because I believe in what God designed you for that deeply! Sadly, I cannot guarantee any results since you've got free will and all. While I can give you the plays, you're the one who has to run them. You're fully in charge of applying this and responsible for your results.

Okay enough of the boring stuff! Take this, own the woman God already called you, and let's freaking do this!!!**