Survival to Self: Navigating Family Dysfunction
$47
A four-module video course for adult children of dysfunctional families who want to know what to say, what to do and how to hold their ground when the usual family shit starts.
YOU ALREADY KNOW YOUR FAMILY IS DYSFUNCTIONAL.
Now learn what you can do when the same old patterns show up again. You’ve recognised the guilt trip. You know why that comment gets under your skin. But when it actually happens, you still freeze, overexplain or say yes when you want to say no.
Survival to Self helps you turn that understanding into practical choices: noticing what is happening, deciding how you want to respond and learning what to do when someone doesn’t like your answer.
After Survival to Self, I want you to be able to...
Say “we're not coming Sunday” without writing a dissertation explaining why.
Hear “after everything I've done for you…” and recognize the guilt trip while it's happening.
Set a boundary and know exactly what you're going to do if they ignore it.
Let your mom be disappointed without immediately scrambling to make her feel better.
Get triangulated into your sibling's drama and say, “Nope. Talk to them directly.”
Leave the family gathering when you planned to leave—even if somebody gets pissy.
Come home from a visit without spending the next three days replaying every conversation in your head.
HERE'S THE ACTUAL SYSTEM I TEACH YOU:
PRACTICAL HELP FOR THE MOMENTS YOU KEEP GETTING STUCK IN
Recognising guilt and manipulation in family interactions. Working out when you need a boundary and what to do when it is ignored. Choosing what to say without getting caught in endless explanations. Learning how to let someone have a reaction without automatically making it yours to fix.
FOUR MODULES. SHORT VIDEO LESSONS. LIFETIME ACCESS.
Work through the teaching, then return to relevant lessons when you need a reminder, whether you’re preparing for a visit or reflecting on a conversation that pulled you back into an old pattern.
SHORT. PRACTICAL. USE WHAT YOU NEED & REWATCH ANY TIME.
No hour-long lectures. No fluff. No homework assignment disguised as healing.
Each video teaches one specific tool or concept, so you can move through the course from start to finish—or jump straight to what you need before the family dinner, phone call, boundary conversation, or inevitable guilt trip.
~2.5 hours total • Short video lessons • Self-paced • Lifetime access
AND YOU'RE NOT JUST GETTING VIDEOS.
You'll also get four practical resources designed to help you actually use what you're learning:
THE TRIGGER IDENTIFIER
Spot what activates you, understand what's happening in your nervous system, and start recognizing your patterns before they take over.
THE CYCLE BREAKER'S GAME PLAN
Plan for difficult family interactions before you're in the middle of one—your triggers, boundaries, regulation strategies, and how you want to handle the visit.
THE MANIPULATION PLAYBOOK
Your guide to recognizing the heavy hitters—gaslighting, FOG, DARVO, triangulation, silent treatment, flying monkeys—and deciding how you want to respond.
THE POST-VISIT DEBRIEF
Process what happened, regulate after the interaction, and figure out what you want to keep, change, or do differently next time.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR THEM TO CHANGE BEFORE YOU LEARN SOMETHING NEW.
Maybe you love your family. Maybe you want your kids to know their grandparents. Maybe you want less contact, or you haven’t decided what you want yet. This course doesn’t make that decision for you. It teaches practical ways to think about what you’ll participate in, what you won’t and how you want to respond.
IMAGINE THE NEXT INTERACTION FEELING A BIT DIFFERENT
Your mom makes the comment—and you recognize what's happening before automatically defending yourself.
Someone pushes your boundary—and you don't spend the next 20 minutes trying to make them understand.
You leave the visit—and instead of bringing the emotional hangover home, you know how to come back down.
They might not behave any differently.
But YOU can.
WHAT THIS CAN LOOK LIKE IN REAL LIFE ↓
WHO THIS IS FOR
Adults who recognise dysfunctional family patterns and want practical education on responding to them.
If you keep thinking “I understand why I do this, but what do I actually do differently?”, that is the gap this course is designed to help you work on.
START WITH THE NEXT CONVERSATION.
You don’t have to solve your whole family before you take a first step. Start learning the
skills you want available to you before the next visit, message or difficult conversation.
You don't have to solve your whole family.
You just need to know what to do the next time the pattern shows up.
Melissa (UK)
Anyone who has experienced a narcissist and dysfunction needs this course. It’s healing as you feel validated. It also has given me tips to go into visits with the narcissist and cope better. It was worth every penny + more! Kayla explains everything brilliantly and the videos and worksheets work well together to help you make progress. Thank you for making this course and sharing your story and knowledge, I’m grateful and highly recommend the course!
Quinn (CA)
This course has taught me more in 30 minutes than I learned in 10+ years of talk therapy. Establishing boundaries and navigating my relationship with my family as an adult has been an incredibly hard journey for me, and I'd felt like I was at a standstill in my progress for years until now. Watching Kayla's content feels like the warm, validating hug I didn't know I needed and has left me feeling so empowered in my self-care and boundary-setting journey. I especially appreciate her focus on explaining how long-term toxic patterns can manifest as uncomfortable physiological symptoms, why that discomfort occurs, and how we can work to rewire our brain over time to establish newer, more positive patterns. I feel more hopeful than I've felt in a long time about establishing a more positive family dynamic and honoring my own needs first!