The Order Isn't Working | Post-Decree Bundle

The Order Isn't Working. The Post-Decree Bundle.

Read Your Own Damn Decree, the Modification Prep Organizer, the Enforcement Organizer, and the child support guide. Four documents, one set.

The decree gets signed and everybody treats that as the end of the story. The file closes. People stop asking how it is going.

Then a job changes. Or a schedule that worked when a child was six stops working when the child is eleven. Or one household simply stops doing a thing the document says, not dramatically, just quietly, and it keeps not happening.

Most of the parents I have sat with waited a long time in that stretch. Not because they did not notice. Because they could not tell what kind of problem they were having, and nobody had explained that it makes a very large difference which kind it is.

What this actually is, in plain language.

There are two separate questions after a decree, and they go to different places, cost different amounts, and need different records.

One is whether the order itself should change. The circumstances moved and the document did not move with them.

The other is whether the order is fine and it is simply not being followed. The document is not the problem. The compliance is.

People arrive describing one and asking for the other, constantly. Sorting out which one you are actually in is the first useful thing that can happen, and everything after it gets cheaper.

Which one applies to your situation, and what to do about it, is not a question I can answer. I am not an attorney. These four documents organise the reading, the record, and the questions so you can take them to someone who can.

This is an educational bundle for parents living under an order that has stopped fitting. It is a starting point to bring to a licensed attorney, not legal advice, not a finished court document, and not a substitute for an attorney. Created by a parent who navigated the family court system, sold by ValuED Sales LLC dba May Divorce Be With You.

What's inside

Four documents, each sold separately in this store, in one set.

Read Your Own Damn Decree. A walk through the document you already have, section by section, so you can see what it says rather than what you remember agreeing to. This is the one people should read first and almost never do.

Time Passed. The Order Didn't. The modification prep organizer. Twelve worksheets for building a dated record of what changed, when it changed, and what you can actually show.

It Says They Have To. They Aren't. The enforcement organizer. Thirteen worksheets for the other situation, where the order is clear and it is still not happening. Builds the pattern into something readable instead of something you have been carrying around in your head.

Nobody Told Me There Was a System. The child support side in plain language, including who to call, what that office can do, and what it cannot.

Delivered as PDFs and editable Word documents.

You do not have to have decided anything to start reading.

This may fit your situation if

You cannot tell whether you need the order changed or the order followed

Something has been going wrong for months and none of it is written down anywhere

You are heading into a consult and would rather arrive with a record than a story

You have already bought one or two of these and want the rest

What this is not: Legal advice. A determination of whether you can modify, or whether something is a violation. A recommendation to file, or not to file. Any prediction of an outcome. A substitute for an attorney licensed in your state.

Already own one of these? All four are sold separately. If you already have one, email sruff@valuedsales.com before you buy and we will sort out the difference rather than charging you twice.

Read Before Purchase

This is an educational publication, not legal advice. The author is not an attorney. Purchase does not create an attorney-client relationship, and no information shared with the seller is protected by attorney-client privilege.

These are preparation and question documents, not templates. Where they touch on procedure, the author has followed most closely are in Utah. Family law is state law and it varies significantly. Nothing here should be treated as a statement of what your state requires or permits. An attorney licensed in your state is the only person who can tell you what applies to your situation.

Do not use this product as your starting point if any of the following applies to your case: domestic violence; an active protective order; substance abuse affecting parenting; CPS or DCFS involvement; abuse allegations, substantiated or not; an active mental health crisis; international parental abduction risk; significant special needs; complex finances or hidden asset concerns; or active parental alienation. In any of those situations, go directly to a licensed family law attorney.

This may not be the right starting point right now if any of these describe you: there has been physical violence or a threat of it; there have been threats to harm the children, or you; the other parent monitors your phone, location, accounts, or movements; there is a current or recent protective order in either direction; or there is an active substance abuse issue, severe untreated mental illness, or suicidal ideation in the home. Some of the preparation described here can increase danger in a relationship that is already dangerous. If even one applies, work with someone trained in safety planning first. A domestic violence advocate can help sequence things for your situation. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Free, confidential, 24 hours a day. In immediate danger: 911, always.

Refunds. All sales are final. These are instant digital downloads, delivered immediately on purchase, so we do not offer refunds. Two exceptions: if a file fails to download or arrives corrupted, email sruff@valuedsales.com and we will re-deliver or refund. And if you bought the wrong structure, email within 14 days and we will exchange it at no cost.

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Reviewed September 2026.

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