Unlocking Life After Trauma & Codependency

In this exclusive, self guided online course, you will learn how to create an emotionally available, healthy, and safe connection to yourself through trauma informed nervous system practices, self awareness exercises & journaling prompts, and developmental practices children from trauma and CPTSD inducing homes do not get a chance to learn.

This is where survival mode ends and real stability begins.

ULATC is a guide and blueprint on HOW to rewire your nervous system, mindset, and beliefs after being born into traumatic, unavailable and dysfunctional homes that do not teach you what it means to be seen, heard, understood, loved, and valued. If you are ready to call your power back and start taking actionable steps to change your life, welcome home. There is no more time to waste. Enroll now and start making changes in how you see yourself, relate to yourself, and help your inner child be seen, loved, protected, and nurtured in all the ways you have been missing.

What it’s like being born to and growing up in a dysfunctional home with narcissists:

• Born to people that don’t like you, don’t want you, aren’t interested in you, don’t care for or nurture you, and are deeply unavailable in every sense of the word. Because of this, you are likely carrying deep wounding that results in codependency (lack of self) and CPTSD (disregulated nervous system from complete lack of safety and true care in your life).

• Your world and life are shaped by abandonment and neglect. You think everyone doesn’t like you, isn’t interested in you, doesn’t care about your feelings, etc because this is what you were shown in your formative years.

• Your patterning becomes: I don’t like me, I don’t trust myself, I don’t trust life, I am not interested in me, I barely care for myself, I don’t know what nurturing or care is like. I must abandon myself and people please everyone else to survive. I am unavailable to you and to me. I am at home in unavailability, silence, and abandonment (with people who leave, don’t see me, don’t care for me, don’t nurture me at best and abuse me at worst). Being treated poorly is what you accept, know, assume, and expect. The world will mirror this to you and when you see it, you cannot unsee it.

  • REMEMBER: this is only programming and conditioning due to what you experienced as the “normal” of your home. This is not your fault. When trauma is what we’re born into, it is impossible to know anything different or to treat yourself in better ways if you are NOT exposed to these better ways! You break the cycles when you start awakening (usually via immense pain in relationships) and learning you can treat yourself better and slowly begin to expect more and better from yourself, and the people around you. Everything upgrades as your awareness and what you tolerate or accept changes. You will begin protecting yourself from anyone who reminds you of your parents or past abusers.

  • The work inside of ULATC helps you upgrade your nervous system, beliefs, and how you operate so you don’t go back to what you used to accept (emotional unavailability and abuse).

  • When you begin operating from safety and care, you no longer tolerate or accept abuse or unavailability!

Recognizing Your Patterning

• Awakening means you recognize this old patterning is the operating system of your life. Recognizing your nervous system is conditioned to this treatment and also expects it, and assumes “this is just how life is.” 

• Your power comes online through recognition and understanding: how I’m living is just conditioning, it is not the ultimate truth, and old programming can be changed. You can learn a new way. A loving, understanding, kind way of life where you can show up, be seen, be loved, and allow in new nurturing experiences for yourself.

• In fact, you must learn a new way if you wish to heal and UNLOCK new life after trauma, codependency, and CPTSD. You cannot keep carrying neglect as the operator of your life while you wish for a life of peace, love, authenticity, and truly being seen and heard.

Safety, Care, & Living in New Ways

• Safety is the number one priority in unlocking your life after trauma, codependency, narcissistic abuse, and CPTSD. 

• ULATC is the guidance to help you begin living in new ways with the foundation of safety, nervous system regulation, and emotional availability.

• You must learn how to feel and be comfortable (safe) with what you feel and what you have been through. This is how you’ll begin to deal with both feelings tied to what you have survived and the immense grief of being born into a home of neglect and abuse. 

• There will be immense grief in connecting to what you have lost (a loving home, a safe home, loving, kind, gentle parents, being considered, having your feelings met, needs met, having these things validated, held, etc.). 

• The things you’ve lost in your upbringing, now get to become your new ways of life. Just because your family did not show up for you in these ways doesn’t mean you don’t get these things. 

• You now have to begin integrating and adapting your life to having your needs met, expressing feelings, being supported, being nurtured, feeling safe, etc. This is what you’ll grow into as you move through the coursework.

• Through ULATC, you’ll learn to start holding, creating space, and unfreezing the trauma in your bones and nervous system.

• In ULATC you are guided through the developmental steps that do not get taught in neglectful homes: safety, how to feel (emotional availability), how to soothe emotional pain/nervous system reactions, learning to be met emotionally, and understanding your nervous system and trauma. These are all necessary steps to living a more aligned life without constant threat and nervous system activation from old trauma.

• You being able to witness yourself, hold space for the experiences, reactions, and feelings you have lived through that no one else saw, cared for, or held is what heals you.

• Trauma only lives in environments of silence where you are not seen, heard, or considered. You must learn to end this pattern within yourself. ULATC teaches you how to do this with a foundation of safety, love and care, putting YOU at the center of your life.

• I created this course for people like me: survivors of narcissistic parents who never got to learn developmental steps of love, nurturance, care, being met, individuation (becoming your own separate person from your family/parents/toxicity of your family) and having safety in your life. The processes taught in ULATC help you individuate from the trauma and fear you’ve lived in and helps you gently begin creating new pathways of life where you are seen, heard, and understood by yourself.

• When you learn: that it is safe to feel, it is safe to breathe, it is safe to EXIST and TAKE UP SPACE,  it is safe to want more and better from the people around you, that it is safe to be you, it is safe to exist outside of the trauma, lack, and neglect you’ve carried your whole life, everything in your life upgrades.

• There are so many possibilities for you and your life outside of trauma, lack, and neglect. 

• This work starts and ends with you. You are 100% capable of guiding and teaching yourself. I've done it and 100s of other women have as well. ULATC is the guide meant to help you walk this path of love, safety, and feeling with yourself first and foremost. Understanding where you’ve been, how your childhood and nervous system have shaped you, and knowing that if these experiences haven’t been the best - you can change them. You are not stuck or doomed to a life of trauma. You need an upgrade of love, care, consideration for yourself, how you’ve been treated, and the commitment to not hurt, abandon, or neglect yourself further. You must begin meeting yourself and nurturing yourself in the pain and trauma you carry. There is no other way around this. You cannot neglect yourself into a better life!

• If you’re ready to learn new tools to help yourself through your childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, codependency, and CPTSD…

• ULATC is waiting for you! Enroll today!

✨ The Transformation through ULATC: ✨

✅ Knowing who you are and how you feel WITHOUT SHAME
✅ Learning to like & love who you are
✅ Learning to walk away from those that can't see you or expect you to dim your light (people pleasing be gone)
✅ Letting your inner light shine unapologetically ✨
✅ Finally feeling safe in your own skin
✅ Understanding WHY you feel you don't fit in anywhere (this is SO common in traumatic and narcissistic families)
✅ Understanding WHY trauma has been running your life (because no one taught you or showed you otherwise. ULATC is the guide to living in a way that is life giving, NOT staying small, surviving, and barely existing.
✅ Stepping fully into your power and ability to create your life in ways that feel safe, right, and good for YOU! (not your mom, dad, husband, wife, bro, sis, boss, etc.)

What’s Included (Lifetime Access)

6 Self-Guided Modules (One Per Week):

• Module 1: Feelings & Trauma 101

• Module 2: Safety & the Nervous System

• Module 3: Intro to Breathwork (the #1 tool for nervous system regulation)

• Module 4: Self Soothing, Reparenting & Ending People Pleasing

• Module 5: Timeline & Limiting Belief Work

• Module 6: Integration & Ongoing Healing Tools

📘 6 In-Depth Workbooks (100+ pages total)
💪🏼 6 Weekly Action Plans to follow for the rest of your life (step by step guides on how to change your programming)
🎧 6 Downloadable Audio Lessons (8+ hours total)
🌬 3+ Guided Breathwork Sessions

Bonus Resources

💎 Relationship Pattern Assessment
💎 Trigger Soothing Video
💎 Nervous System Worksheets, Affirmations & Meditations
💎 Additional tools added as the course evolves

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Testimonials (live course feedback)

"Thank you for creating this. It is what's been missing my entire life. I now have a great guide on how to connect to myself and heal a lot of the voids that have been missing due to my parent's traumatic ways of raising and not really relating to me in my childhood."

"This work has helped me connect and see how much trauma has impacted and led my whole life. I didn't know any different and now I do thanks to ULATC. It is actually kind of scary to see that I don't have to live in a traumatized way anymore. I have reconnected to my own power through this course. I am so thankful for the awareness this course has given me. Thank you."

“This course provided me with the tools I needed to overcome my past traumas. I feel a lot more confident and connected to who I truly am. For the first time in my life I feel safe enough to be the real me. I know I'll be using this info forever.”

"I never realized how much my unresolved trauma was affecting my daily life until I took this course. The modules were eye opening, and the guidance provided by Haley helped me feel safe enough to explore and heal. I now feel more connected to myself and more at peace than ever before. Who knew how powerful breathwork could be?"

"The workbooks alone are worth the price of this course. I finally understand how to stop abandoning myself."

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This Course Is For You If

✔ You feel disconnected from yourself or your emotions and want to begin creating and nurturing this connection
✔ You grew up in a chaotic, narcissistic, or emotionally unsafe home and you're ready to understand how this shaped your beliefs and your way of life so you can allow in something new
✔ You struggle with codependency, people pleasing, and CPTSD from narcissistic abuse
✔ You want to feel safe and grounded in your body and your life
✔ You’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and take your power back from your trauma by learning how to safely regulate your nervous system and hold space for yourself

This Course Is NOT For You If

✘ You’re looking for quick fixes or bypassing
✘ You’re not willing to reflect on yourself or your patterns
✘ You want someone else to change so you don’t have to
✘ You’re not ready to take responsibility for your healing, your life, how you think, and what you believe

"Healing begins when you decide you will no longer abandon yourself.

Trauma teaches us that we don’t matter, that we should expect neglect, and that love requires self erasure. This is not the truth. What many of us were missing wasn’t willpower or effort, it was true nurturing, protection, and emotional availability. Healing asks us to become what we never had: the protector, the encourager, the steady presence willing to stay no matter what storms may come. ULATC was created to help you begin filling the wounds left by emotionally neglectful, unavailable, and unhealed parenting by learning how to show up for yourself with the safety, compassion, and consistency your parents failed to bring to you and your life. This work guides you back to your worth, your self trust, and your capacity to build a life rooted in connection rather than survival. When you learn to meet the hurting child within you instead of abandoning her, the grip of trauma patterns begins to loosen. You begin to understand: I will be seen, I will be met, I won't be neglected! Hallelujah! If you’re ready to become the most loving, attuned, and supportive presence you’ve ever known! Welcome home. You're not alone.
I’ll walk this path with you." - Haley (creator of ULATC)

✨ Haley

Certified Trauma Informed Breathwork Facilitator | INFJ | Trauma, Narc Abuse, Codependency, CPTSD Survivor & Coach | AKA selfconnectionqueen 💕

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