Get "But Do I Really Love Them?" Now!

For the heart that keeps asking "what if?"

You love your partner. So why can't your brain stop asking if you really do?

Relationship OCD (ROCD) is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder that targets the person you love most. It can look like:

• Intrusive doubts: "Do I really love them?" "What if I'm settling?"

• Checking your body and feelings for "proof," like waiting for butterflies

• Zooming in on one "flaw" in your partner and not being able to let it go

• Comparing your relationship to friends', exes', or social media

• Asking over and over if your relationship is okay

If this sounds familiar, you're not broken and you're not a bad partner. Your brain is caught in a loop, and loops can be interrupted.

I'm Giovonni Hinton, LCSW, a therapist who specializes in OCD and is trained in ERP, the gold standard treatment. I wrote this for the clients who sit across from me exhausted from checking, comparing, and seeking reassurance that never lasts. It's the gentle guide I wish every one of them had on day one.

Inside this 16 page workbook:

• What ROCD is (and isn't), in plain language

• Normal doubt vs. a real red flag: how to tell the difference

• The "May or May Not" practice: an ERP based script for answering OCD with uncertainty

• Three pages just for your partner on how to support you without feeding the cycle

• Pause & Reflect prompts, checklists, and Soft Reminders

• Trusted resources and next steps

Made to actually use.

Type right into the pages on your phone or computer, or print it and write by hand.

Want support beyond the book?

I offer 1:1 ERP therapy for OCD and ROCD, in person in Washington, DC, and by telehealth in DC, Maryland, and Virginia. Inside the guide you'll find a link to book, plus a waitlist for my upcoming Relationship OCD Therapy Group.

Please note: Your download includes a printable PDF and an interactive version you can type in. Unzip the file and open the interactive version in Chrome or Safari.

This guide is educational and is not a diagnosis or a substitute for therapy. If you're in crisis, call or text 988.