Deconstructing Desire E-Book
$37
Women are taught to recognize desire without being taught how to examine it. They know when they feel attracted to someone, when they want attention, when they are sexually activated, or when they cannot stop thinking about a man. What they are rarely taught to question is everything that has been placed inside those experiences.
Desire can contain emotional needs, identity, fantasy, social conditioning, bodily responses, questions about the self, the need to be desired, and experiences a woman has not learned to access directly. When all of that becomes attached to a man, she can interpret the intensity of the experience as evidence of how much she wants him.
This book gives women a way to separate those things. It examines how desire is constructed, what men may represent psychologically, what the body has learned to expect from them, and what begins changing when a woman stops using men as the primary place where she encounters herself.
Deconstructing Desire examines what women are actually reaching for through men, sex, attraction, male attention, protection, provision, leadership, uncertainty, and fantasy.
This is not a book about dating better, improving relationships with men, or learning how to get the response you want from them. It is about understanding why men became so psychologically useful in the first place.
Inside this 80-page ebook and workbook, we examine:
Why women’s obsession with men is often an obsession with themselves
How women give men power and then experience that power as his magnetism
The relationship between uncertainty, anticipation, and chemistry
Why being desired is not the same as desiring the person
The psychological and emotional functions sex performs
Why sexual desire may change as a woman becomes more emotionally regulated and fulfilled
How women outsource aggression, authority, sexuality, darkness, and decision to men
Why leaders, providers, and protectors become more alluring when a woman does not experience herself in those ways
How women benefit from parts of the conditioning they claim to reject
What happens during the ego death that follows decentering men
How to hold arousal, pleasure, pain, uncertainty, and emotional overflow without directing everything toward a man
How the nervous system learns through experience
You will also receive a complete ten-step deconstruction process and eleven guided exercises to help you identify what a man symbolizes, what question you are asking through him, what function the desire is performing, and what parts of yourself you have placed inside men.
Men begin losing their allure when they stop carrying parts of you that you have refused to claim.
