The STEADY™ 90-Second Reset
$17
Pause Before You React: The STEADY 90-Second Reset
Before you send the message. Before you defend yourself. Before panic chooses your next move—take 90 seconds.
A difficult co-parent message. A sudden allegation. A cancelled visit. An upsetting exchange. Something your child says that sends your nervous system into overdrive.
These are the moments when protective parents can feel they have to DO something immediately.
But not every difficult moment requires an immediate response.
The STEADY™ 90-Second Reset is a clinically informed, 7-page regulation and response tool designed to help you create enough space to choose your next deliberate action.
In just 90 seconds, you'll move through:
STOP — Don't send the response adrenaline writes.
ORIENT — Identify the actual issue.
BREATHE & GROUND — Bring your nervous system back into the present.
SEPARATE — What do I KNOW? What am I concerned about? What don't I know yet?
CHOOSE — Decide the next appropriate action.
Your next step may be to:
✓ Respond briefly
✓ Document only
✓ Preserve evidence
✓ Contact the appropriate professional
✓ Take no immediate action
You'll also receive a 90-Second Reset Card, a Before You Respond checklist, low-pressure language for protecting connection with your child, and guidance for deciding when the issue should move into your 24-Hour STEADY Reset Plan.
One question to carry forward:
What response protects the child and helps the record?
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All 4 the Kids,
Margie
Margaret M. FitzGerald, L.C.S.W.
Educational resource only. This tool is not legal advice, a custody evaluation, diagnosis, psychotherapy, or a substitute for individualized legal, medical, or mental-health care.